Being the Best

Many of you heard me say that I’m not the best, I simply take a different approach. There are many reasons for that. The main reason is because being the best automatically creates competition and competition is in the lower forms of emotions and I’m after being in elevated positive emotions as much as I can.

I did a little research on affirmations that had the term “I am the best“ in them. And the one thing that I found that was striking at first, but then it came to make a lot of sense later, was that when people came to me for coaching that were experiencing third-party issues, when I got them to stop using the affirmation, “I am the best”, the third-party disappeared.  The competition was no longer there.

Using the term “I am the best“ creates instant separation. You’ve now walled yourself off from a lot of possibilities. By claiming to be the best, you’ve put yourself on a pedestal looking down on everyone else.  And what happens to those that are at the top of the mountain? Everybody wants to knock them off of that pedestal.  

I’ve watched coaches out there that say that they’re the best, or they say “there is no one that coaches better than I do” and each and every one of them have had major issues in their business. The coaches that I witness and some that I work with now, yes, I even coach coaches because there is no competition between us, those that I’ve witnessed that work out of love and inclusion their business is just simply flourishing.  They have no fears of the people they are coaching going to another coach.  They understand that everything is connected and that there is an infinite amount of abundance out there.  They aren’t working from a place of lack that is found in competition.

It is great to want to do better than you have. There’s no issue with that. There’s no competition with that. I always strive to be better than I was yesterday. But I don’t view myself as being better than anyone else, and there is no one better than me either.  We all come from the same source, we are all divine, so how can we be better than divinity? We can’t. So why bring that unnecessary stress upon yourself. Why bring that competition of a third-party into your love life. Why should you have to guard your position on the top of the mountain from those that want to get up there and take your place as the best?

The moment I asked my clients to not use. “I am the best,” “I am the king,” “I am the queen”, etc.  their affirmations started working.  They added elevated, positive emotions to their affirmations  and stayed away from the competitive affirmations. There’s no longer competition. There’s no longer separation. People want to be around them.

Don’t believe me though.  Go check it out for yourself.
Look at anyone that says they are the best at anything.  Eventually they are knocked off of that pedestal and then they are attacked.
I’m a big basketball fan and the Lakers are my team.  When Lebron James came I was so excited.  He was the best and some would say the greatest of all time.  But look what happened to him this past season.  He and the Lakers were defeated by a team with a bunch of up and comers.  They were swept in the semi finals by a bunch of guys that are rising stars.  There was no doubt who was the better player on the floor and the better team and it wasn’t Lebron or the Lakers. 

Einstein, as smart as he was refused to see or couldn’t see that the electrons in an atom were both a wave and particle at the same time and they could be in multiple places at the same time.   And that if separated, the two would react to stimulus at exactly the same time no matter what the distance between them is.  Einstein simply called it “spooky science at a distance”.  His colleagues would go on to prove him wrong.  The greatest mind of the world was on the wrong side of the equation on what will likely be the greatest discovery of mans existence.  The fact that everything is connected no matter what the distance is.

By competing or saying you are the best creates instant separation and that’s not what your after.  You want love and acceptance in a positive direction.  By saying you’re the best opens the door for others to come walking into your reality.  You’re welcoming those 3rd parties into your reality.  You fear loosing your clients to another coach so you need to do better to stay on top.  You start to do things and create things designed to “keep” your current clients.  You start clinging onto what you “have” creating a feeling of lack that the universe regocnizes and since you’re focusing on that with emotions you get more of it.  The more you compete by saying you’re the best the longer that 3rd party hangs around.  The mere fact of having to say “I’m the best” means there is a possibility that there is someone or something better.  It shows that you are focusing on “another” out there that you have to prove you’re better than.

Instead of putting your attention where it should be, on you and who you are in the relationship, you’re putting it on the fact that there is another one you have to worry about now.  Take your attention away from that position and you will no longer have to “worry” about another person that is after your love interest.  Pay attention to what you can provide the world and all those that are in it and you won’t need to worry if there is another coach that is better than you.  

Really…. Think about this.  Who wants to be a King or Queen?  I certainly don’t.  I’m a lot freer than they are.  I’m not worried about being dethroned.  I’m not in the spot light and don’t have to be.  I can be me.  I can go for a hike all by myself and smell the flowers all by myself.  I can sit on a sea side cliff and watch the sun set and watch the dolphins play in the ocean pretty much when I want.  I can go to the bathroom by myself. I’m an adult for heavens sake.  There is no competition being me.  If a coach comes to me, and they do, and asks me what I do or could I help them understand something that I’ve taught on I have no problem.  I’ve got nothing to hide because there isn’t anyone I’m competing against.  

Get rid of those competitive affirmations and watch your world turn around.  Stop living from a place of lack and start living from a place of abundance.  Allow yourself to be free of the shackles of having to live up to being the best.  Be you.  Be the best you can be and I’ll tell you that the best you is better than you could ever dream of.  

You’ve got this,  Anthony